NLP coaching isn’t so much about you, yet about the people you coach or train. You may think you are great (and that’s a good thing), yet unless your focus is on the power inherent in your client, you are barking up the wrong tree.
Most NLP coaches talk about their clients as if they were the instruments that finally made this ‘resistant’ bag of bones come to life. From our experience, it’s always much more the client themselves that cause the most change.
Our job as NLP coaches and trainers is to hold a space of greatness for the client to remember who they really are!
Most of the work we do these days revolves around turning the client to see the incredible power they have in themselves and shining a light where it hasn’t been for a while. That way, we don’t becoame too important or reach the ‘Guru’ status.
When somone sees their own power, they can leave the coach, trainer, therapist easily, just like a boy or girl will eventually tire of their parents.
A coach or trainer will, of course, have to see their own power and beauty to be able to let go of any attachment to the results of the client. That way it becomes a clean relationship that’s equal in it’s quality of giving and receiving.
I, personally am always in awe at the commitment and dedication clients have to change their circumstances and come out of their comfort zone. I’m not an easy coach and choose my clients wisely, plus charge an adequate amount of money to make sure they are serious.
Changing a lifestyle is not the easiest task. There’s an old Japanese saying “Better not start. Once started, better finish!”
How true that statement is: I want my clients to succeed. Therefore I task them heavily and make sure they are ready for the road. On my two day NLP course “The Laws of Attraction”, one of the participants shared afterwards: “If I’d have known what this course would have been like, I wouldn’t have come. Now I’ve gone through it, it’s been the most exhilarating, transformational thing I’ve ever done!”
So, if you are planning to become a coach or trainer, make sure you realise that the journey is for you as well as your client or student; work hard on yourself and get your own successes, then you can freely rejoice when your client gets theirs 
Here’s a few quotes from people on our courses:
“The whole presupposition of fun and passionate belief in the material was outstanding and especially the intelligence in the delivery of the training, giving respect to the intelligence of the delegates…passion, love and respect”
Shana Dean – Legal P.A., New York
“I’ve attended a great many trainings in my role as CEO of a City Communications business and none have got close to the sequence of deep learning’s about myself I have experienced from this training. A big thank you!”
Robin Johnson – Managing Director Ovationxl executive coaching company
“I have grown, changed and improved myself so much over the sum of just one week. It has been a true and remarkable experience. For your expertise, energy and love! Thank you so Much!!”
Nick Penny – Accountant
“….once again, you have been an absolute star, and am in awe at both you and Adam, in your ability to convey such complex information to a range of people with different educational and experiential backgrounds. I feel that without any doubt I made the right choice in being trained by you….”
Andrew Wright -Senior Performance Advisor: South East. Youth Justice Board for England and Wales
“I was wondering how I would integrate all this new learning into my therapeutic work with clients and important shifts have happened organically. My new found awareness of myself and others has allowed me into a new dimension, I have shifted my focus to process rather than content with wonderful results!”
Jane Archutowska – Therapist, London
“…so glad I booked this, and in my opinion, your courses should be dearer, you have a passion I’ve never seen before and you’re a natural teacher.”
Glenn Perkins (BA, DHP,NLP, DCMT, Creg, APHP, ECI) – Consultant Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Life Coach
“I really loved the presentation of the material, ..I just didn’t even notice the days passing.”
Theodore Kyriacos – Psychotherapist, London
“I am not quite sure where to start with this communication, perhaps by saying thank you for providing me with so very much personal change and confidence in who I am. This is to you and the other members of your superb team…If it may be of any use to you in any way, please feel free to quote me, and any comment I have made with regard to you, and your invaluable training. I would be proud to be associated with the name Terry Elston and NLP World. I look forward to my next training with you.” Mike Snape -International Police Organisation Leader
“The NLP World experience is one of totally enthusiasm about the subject and that really passed it on to me; there was also a lot of participation so that we all had a chance to try out the techniques I had a great time-lots of fun!”
Sally Price – Staff liaison officer, Cardiff
“I loved the hypnosis part of the course. For a start, I hadn’t expected to laugh quite so much or for so long, and had also not realized that hypnosis would go so far beyond my expectations. I found it to be an immensely powerful and very gentle treatment that makes profound change possible in a short time. And besides all of this, it also feels great to be hypnotized!”
Greg Southey – IT Business Consultant, Surrey
“I’ve thoroughly enjoyed all of the training, particularly the experience of making major personal changes. I’m very very grateful; It’s been an honour to be among such a gathering!”
Sheila Morrell – Lancashire
“What an experience! I’m still reeling from the enormity of everything I learned and the worlds of possibility that opened up to me. As well as learning a whole gamut of new techniques that will revolutionise my coaching skills, I achieved much more than I ever would have thought possible towards my own personal development.”
Clair Bradford – Coach, Sussex
“The course was high energy and definitely transforming, enabling me to access the best that I have to offer.”
Paul Bailey – Therapist, Eastbourne
“I have already decided to book on the master practitioner before even attending the practitioner course…. both you and Richard have already been an inspiration to me, and changed my personal life for the better.”
Glen Perkins (BA, DHP,NLP, DCMT, Creg, APHP, ECI) – Consultant Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Life Coach
What people say about the Master Practitioner course?
“Thanks again for last weekend. Only one word – awesome! The real description is somewhere in the Infinite Cosmos…… Anyway, I got to playing with whether I could make it to the next Module 3 – what if I did / what if I didn’t / for what purpose not going, and concluded that I HAD to be there”. Adrian Munday
Thank you, Terry, for training me so very well on the Master NLP course…“I think you are the most highly rated external trainer/coach I have experienced in 20 years”
Robin Johnson Managing Director Ovationxl executive coaching company
“Terry, thank you so much for a wonderful training session.
I am flying so high I don’t think I’ll need to use BA to get to Tampa this week! Before, I knew that I could be a great NLP Practitioner but I didn’t know it, now I do. Thanks again. See ya Viv” Vivien Melanie
“Just a quick note to say thanks very much for the session Tuesday night. I really enjoyed it, but I couldn’t really remember what the “problems” were which is a good thing – as I tried to think of them, they just kept disappearing so I just said well, whatever it is, it’s not a problem now!!”
This came from a client after a session from one of our newly accredited Master Practitioners, Paul Burr using quantum linguistics
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Terry Elston NLP World Director
