This blog doesn’t have a lot to do with NLP. I wrote this as a kind of holiday blog, a bit of fun mixed with philosophy! You may even give it to your kids (or partner, whichever are the younger of mind).
Rule 1 : Life is not fair – get used to it!
Rule 2 : The world doesn’t care about you.
Rule 3 : You will NOT make £60,000 a year right out of college. You won’t be a director with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss
Rule 5 : Serving burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping; they called it opportunity.
Rule 6 : If you mess up, it’s not your parent’s fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7 : Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9 : Life is not divided into terms. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.
Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.
Self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
On a more philosophical note, I had the pattern of ‘not fair’ in my patterns for about half my life. NLP came a long way to uncovering this and allowing me to redesign that pattern. I’m operating out of the pattern “there is no such thing as failure, only feedback” these days.