In NLP Modal Operators of Necessity relates to words, which form the rules in our lives (should, must, have to, etc.) Modal Operator of Possibility relates to words that denote that which is considered possible (can, cannot, etc.).
Using Modal Operators of Necessity can lead to resistance, depending on how you use your tone. They have the effect of pushing / pulling the neurology.
Here are some examples of how they are used in ways that can be counterproductive, hear them in your mind and consider the impact on your system:
You should know this by now.
You must do this right from now on.
You have to start listening more.
Here are some examples of how they can be used with positive purpose:
I shouldn’t have to tell you that it’s important to know this by now or next week, because only you know what difference it will make to have that knowledge.
It’s not for us as Practitioners to have to know exactly what the client needs as soon as we see them, because it’s the client’s responsibility to have the intention to change.
Here are some examples of Modal Operators of Possibility:
Perhaps you can start to become aware of the possibilities you have available to you.
Perhaps you cannot yet see the amount of possibilities you have available to you.
Perhaps you can notice how much progress you have made.
Perhaps you cannot notice how much progress you have made.
Perhaps you can start to see how this information can apply to your day to day life.
Perhaps you cannot yet see how this applies to your day to day life.
Perhaps it’s possible that you can relax your mind now with every breath you take.
Perhaps it’s not yet possible that you can relax your mind now with every breath you take.