Knowing NLP is one my my latest books aimed at the casual enquirer yet also NLP Practitioners and Trainers who want to know more about the underlying foundation of the techniques inside NLP.
Here’s an excerpt:
The myth of Matching and Mirroring
“What most NLP practitioners have been trained in, is something called matching and mirroring. I am going to show you how this works in the next few paragraphs. Before that though, I am going to denominalise it and throw out the myth that it is normally associated with it. What actually happens is that two or more people share energy fields. You can feel if someone else is ‘with’ you or not ‘with’ you in energy. You get good ‘vibes’ (energy vibrations, of course), or not!
That’s how you can easily turn your back on someone and still stay very connected (and they will still feel the connection). So the next pieces on matching and mirroring are a little redundant, unless you don’t know how to connect with people energetically. That’s not to say that matching and mirroring doesn’t work, far from it: In the process of matching and mirroring, at the very least you have to be on the outside, observing them. Then you can’t be completely in your own head, without any frame of reference to their body language and state!
So what I am saying is that the natural process of rapport comes from an inner hunger and thirst to really connect. What is really happening is you are connecting with people energetically. When you recognise that it’s the energy that’s connecting, you won’t have to use your body movements so much to make this happen. The process involved requires intention on your part. To develop energy connections involves wanting to and then making it happen. I rarely have to ‘turn on’ my physical rapport techniques because there are normally so many naturally occurring good feelings present in any situation to begin with. If you can’t do that (or that’s still not working), then use the processes below.”
Here’s what people say about Knowing NLP:
“I’d recommend Knowing NLP to anyone looking for an easy -to -understand yet profound insight into how NLP really works.”Adam Sprackling, NLP Trainer & Golf Mind Coach
“Knowing NLP is a book for the beginner yet also has many aspects that as a Trainer I found really useful too. It is noticeable that Terry has been studying what really causes change, which is not just about NLP, but the process of lifeSusanne Billander, Master Practitioner of NLP & Master Trainer META-Health Coach
and transformation itself.”
“This is the book I’ve been looking for. It’s a journey into the real understanding of NLP!”Glen McPheat , NLP Practitioner & teacher for special educational needs
I wrote Knowing NLP because I wanted a book I could recommend to anyone, whether they were experienced or not.