NLP Books – Knowing NLP

Written by Terry Elston

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Knowing NLP is one my my latest books aimed at the casual enquirer yet also NLP Practitioners and Trainers who want to know more about the underlying foundation of the techniques inside NLP.

Here’s an excerpt:

The myth of Matching and Mirroring

“What most NLP practitioners have been trained in, is something called matching and mirroring. I am going to show you how this works in the next few paragraphs. Before that though, I am going to denominalise it and throw out the myth that it is normally associated with it. What actually happens is that two or more people share energy fields. You can feel if someone else is ‘with’ you or not ‘with’ you in energy. You get good ‘vibes’ (energy vibrations, of course), or not!

That’s how you can easily turn your back on someone and still stay very connected (and they will still feel the connection). So the next pieces on matching and mirroring are a little redundant, unless you don’t know how to connect with people energetically. That’s not to say that matching and mirroring doesn’t work, far from it: In the process of matching and mirroring, at the very least you have to be on the outside, observing them. Then you can’t be completely in your own head, without any frame of reference to their body language and state!

So what I am saying is that the natural process of rapport comes from an inner hunger and thirst to really connect. What is really happening is you are connecting with people energetically. When you recognise that it’s the energy that’s connecting, you won’t have to use your body movements so much to make this happen. The process involved requires intention on your part. To develop energy connections involves wanting to and then making it happen. I rarely have to ‘turn on’ my physical rapport techniques because there are normally so many naturally occurring good feelings present in any situation to begin with. If you can’t do that (or that’s still not working), then use the processes below.”

Here’s what people say about Knowing NLP:

“I’d   recommend   Knowing   NLP   to   anyone  looking  for  an  easy -to -understand yet  profound  insight  into  how  NLP  really  works.”

Adam  Sprackling,  NLP  Trainer  &  Golf  Mind  Coach

“Knowing   NLP   is  a  book   for   the  beginner  yet  also  has  many  aspects  that  as  a Trainer   I   found  really  useful  too.  It  is  noticeable   that   Terry   has   been   studying what  really  causes  change,  which   is  not  just  about  NLP,  but   the   process   of   life
and   transformation   itself.”

Susanne  Billander,  Master  Practitioner  of  NLP  &  Master   Trainer  META-Health  Coach

“This  is  the  book  I’ve  been  looking  for.  It’s   a  journey  into  the  real  understanding of   NLP!”

Glen  McPheat ,  NLP  Practitioner  &  teacher  for  special   educational  needs

I wrote Knowing NLP because I wanted a book I could recommend to anyone, whether they were experienced or not.

You can find it on Amazon.com or a PDF ebook through myself.